Why People act to rude?

[babygirl82]

I just can't figure this out so maybe someone here can help me.
I am 26 yrs old, have worked full time since I was 15 yrs old, have an almost 10 mth old daughter and have recently lost my job (not my own fault either). I am currently collecting unemployment while looking for other work, since I am no longer working my daughter no longer has insurance through my employer (I also don't have any insurance - but thats fine) right now she is covered under government insurance, I don't like it but she needs to be able to get her shots and go to the doctor if ill.
Why do people look at me and say that I'm nothing but a welfare bum, and why do I get treated worse than everyone else? I don't want to sound like I'm whinning but I take my daughter to her drs appointment and the secretary looks at me and asks very loudly (in a packed drs office) did you get a job and off welfare yet? Are people really this rude in the world? Its not like I asked to get laid off, I would much rather be living off my normal wage instead of unemployment. What makes everyone think that I'm a bum? I only have one child - she was not planned but is well taken care of. I would not trade her for the world - because she is my world now. And I have held down full time employment since I was legally able (in PA a person cannot work until the age of 15). I really was not happy about having to get her government insurance to begin with, because I have never needed or wanted the assistance (I guess I'm kinda stubborn about things) but the one time I need the help for my child I get treated like trash. Why do people act the way they do? Does it give them some kind of thrill to embarass others in public?
I don't know - If nothing else I got to get this off of my chest - so thank you for that.
Dee

[excelsior]

I am really sorry that you have to face such rudeness. And you are right, you don't deserve to be treated that way because you have stood on your own two feet ever since you were almost still a kid--15 years is a really tender age.

Well, as far as I know, there isn't much explanation for rudeness or bullying in the world. I guess some people want to feel great and they bully someone they feel is in slightly more unfortunate conditions than themselves.

You gotta teach people how to treat you right. Unless you teach them, they won't learn. You should have just looked at that secretary right in the eye and asked her, "No, now how does that bother you? You are not paying for my baby's medical bill out of your pocket, are ya?" or something like that.

I had a tiff with my miserable wretch of a neighbor today. She has been bullying my Mom for a long time, and I was tired of it. I gave her nice and proper, and she shot off like a scalded kitten. I am sure she won't bother us for a long time now. If she does, I know how to take care of her.

Just don't let people harass you. Where you live, there are good laws to protect you. And it isn't as if you are on welfare forever. It is only till you get a job, so you don't have to feel bad about it.

I wish you all the best. Cheers and keep smiling!

[Elizabeth]

Babygirl, I also am ashamed of the way you were treated. I would also consider possibly speaking with her supervisor and as stated by Excelsior, a quick response or jab back at her might have put her in the defensive seat instead of you carrying the guilt for something that is out of your control-unemployed. DO NOT and I say that with conviction, EVER, let someone tell you that what you are doing to handle things and make sure your child has coverage is wrong. I also am a mother, and you do whatever you have to, to survive. The government assistance is there for specifically this type of situation and you are using it as it was designed to be used.
Hold your head up high and be proud of who you are, and carry on young lady. God Bless you and your baby.

[Essence]

Dearest Dee,
First let me say that you and your daughter are truly magnificent rainbow lights in this world. The love and energy that you both emit is beautiful beyond compare.
As for how others treat us and act in hurtful manners...well, the reasons are as numerous as there are humans on this earth. I would venture to say that the majority of the time others treat anyone the way that receptionist treated you, is simply out of fear, and fear leads to the need to try and feel empowered. When people treat us, or anyone else, that way it is because, for what ever their personal reason may be, they are stealing power from us. Most generally if you take notice, this will affect us in the solar plexus, the stomach. It's like getting hit in the gut.
What I have found to be an effective way of handling a situation such as this is, I constantly channel energy down through my crown chakra and out of my solar plexus to any and all around me who might feel the need for some extra energy. Please understand, this is not my personal energy I am giving up, I am simply allowing the infinite abundance of universal love (energy) to flow through me and directing it at others. In this way what they are looking for is freely given and I find most times this takes people off of the defensive and puts everyone and the situation as a whole at ease.

Give this a try and see if it doesn't work for you.

Love, Light and Blessings,

Essence

[fred]

I have decent insurance but my dental is not as good as it used to be before my company switched providers. I now go to a local place that is the same top rate work but the prices are discounted and some of the times there is one lady behind the counter who is just rude to anyone she comes across. I just have to shake my head sometimes and know that I have patience, even for those being so negative and not liking their work looking down upon others.

[babygirl82]

Fred,
I think your right. Sometimes people just dislike something so much that they take it out on everyone else. I also think that there are just some people in the world that just do not know how to be happy. I'm not sure if it is their personality, how they were raised or what. All I can say is to keep smiling and going on with your life.