How would you react if someone who happens to be your spouse colleague and a competitor being in same post react in a weird manner with you. I have a person who compares everything with our family including TV. She went to the heights of becoming pregnant the moment she heard that I was expecting but unfortunately she lost her baby within 3 months. How would one behave with such a person?
I believe such behavior comes from insecurity. I have a co-worker that competes in similar ways. She actually changes her story to make sure she "one-ups" me.
I try to bolster her confidence whenever I can because I think it helps her feel better about herself. I also avoid talking about myself in front of her, so that she doesn't feel the need to compete.
I think Mom2manyboyz has hit this one on target. This person is obviously very insecure and probably grew up without much support of any kind, or she could be dealing with some mental issues unbeknownced to all. If it we me, I wouldn't take the little stuff as anything but possible jealousy, because you are undoubtedly confident within yourself...if it gets more creepy, I would have a chat with her and just ask her why, and let her know that it bothers you. Sometimes they think that it is complimentary and that you should be flattered by it.
I don't think that there is really anything you can do ultimately, bar removing yourself from the awkwardness. It's a shame, but I hope that you can learn to deal with it.
I think we should do what we can to help others every chance we get. Sometimes conflict is really just an opportunity. It's all in how you handle it. People actually grow by handling relationships positively rather than shutting them out. It took me until age 38 to realize this and the first time I heard the idea, I didn't believe it. It wasn't until carefully analyzing this idea that I embraced it to be true. If we take a conflict and shut it out, it is still in our minds as negative. If we do our best to behave positively despite the situation, we come out of it stronger. Not to mention the other person may also grow.
I agree with SageMother on this one. I do the same thing with any negative people in my life. I believe that we will do better spiritually and physically by surrounding ourselves with positive people. People with negative energy too often act like a vacuum to our positive energies, pulling them into a void.
This person sounds very insecure and is in desperate need of attention. There are two methods that come to mind in dealing with someone like this and both methods have already been discussed: uplift her or ignore her.
If you choose to uplift her and support her with positiveness, be very careful because this person may become co-dependent and need you even more. If you can handle this emotionally this is a kind way to proceed.
You can always try to ignore her, but she sounds like the type where if you ignore her, she may crave more attention.
Whatever road you choose, I wish you the best in this situation.
Well I'm actually ignoring her totally now, I speak to her when she speaks to me else just a "hello" and we move on. It is so that these days if I talk to someone whom even she knows very well, she immediately goes to that person to speak about something once I leave. In any parties when we happen to meet it is like a group having dinner together and she walks up to person beside me, hugs and says "Good-Bye" but doesn't even look at me, I too don't just bother and just ignore these things. One main reason would surely be insecurity, mostly because being a home maker and meeting the boss of my husband once in a while I'm more recognized and spent time with, may be this makes her feel very insecure.
I'm going to suggest that MAYBE, in meditation you have your higher self talk to her higher self and see if maybe this situation could be resolved in a positive manner.
I think, possibly, in situations like this, a lot of the time there is a strong past life connection and an unresolved issue that has been brought over into this lifetime.
I know not everyone is open to beliefs such as reincarnation and higher selves, etc. etc., but if you are not opposed to thoughts such as these you might find at least a bit of help in this process.
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