Dealing With Hardship

[pixie]

Life seldom presents one with only good things and thus we are stuck dealing with hardships and events not to our liking. How can we do this without resorting to unenlightened tactics such as whining, anger and stress?

[Essence]

Tough one.......!!!

I can only say what did, has and is working for me.

Practice, spiritual searching and growth and conscious thinking.......

When I catch myself starting to act in a less than positive way, I step back, regroup, take a deep breath and step up to the plate and deal.

It's the only way I know to do it........

OH.....and I apologize to those I may have not been acting toward in a positive manner.......... usually...for me.....this is my husband or my daughter....!!!! And don't you just know they always call me on it and don't ever let me get away with anything......LOL Tough crowd here in my house......

Love, Light and Blessings,

Namaste

Essence

[metamorphictrance]

What is good, what is bad? There is only love. Where is it stated that life should be what we want. I delt with it by changing my perception.

[1wahmom]

My first answer to this is prayer. I pray about everything and it seems to give me a sense of peace. I don't pray to get what I want, but that what is meant to happen will. I try not to focus on the things I don't have, but to concentrate on what I do have and try my best to get through the hardships as best I can.

[harmonythruchaos]

Originally Posted by metamorphictrance

What is good, what is bad? There is only love. Where is it stated that life should be what we want. I delt with it by changing my perception.

That is it.


Everyone has a good way of dealing with hardship but the truth is in the way we choose to perceive hardship.
Like what was said in the qoute above.

Everything is positive before it has the chance to become negative.
If we learn from our experience it is positive, if we choose not to, than it is negative. Why? because what we face in life is what creates our tomorrow.
Example: To know what it is to struggle is to know what it is to overcome and to know what it is to loose is to know what it is to gain, these are experiences that will shape and mold not only your'e life but that of your'e children and so on.
So if a person chooses not to learn? Than the hardship is greater simply because it's purpose is not understood.
No matter what anyone might say all things consist of reason.
Scientist study reason, religions study reason, cause and effect, why? and how? these are all aspects of purpose. So what is the great reason for all reasons? That is what hardship can teach.
Through prayer we find comfort, it is the absolute or the foundation in which we may leap from. But we do not gain understanding through prayer. We gain the ability to reason with life and ultimatley find the truth.
The truth is what gives way to the mystery of why?
To understand is to seek the root of it.
It's than that we will realize that all doors lead to one place.
Achieve through practice , for prayer is the begining of that practice.
One may pray a million and one times but it is only through ones actions that the leap forward may begin.
I hope that I am understood , look beyond the words for they are only metaphoric exspressions of the truest exspression.

[Anahi]

I think it's impossible for me to not whine or complain. Believe it or not my whining and complaining to someone makes me feel better, like I got something off my chest. Once I say what's bothering me, it's easier for me to deal with and fix it.

[thalia_m]

Hardships, to me at least, has always been a part of a learning experience. When I stopped trying to figure out why I was being handed a hardship lesson, I found that the lesson wasn't all that bad. I did notice that there was nothing that was being sent my way was any different then what others were going through. Then again, a hardship to one may not be a hardship to others.

thalia_m

[kaia]

I am going through this myself right now. We have had a series of hard events strike us these last few weeks. I am constantly reminding myself that life is cyclic, and the bad times are just the other side of the coin from the good, and that I can't see it from where I am now, but good will come from struggle. I try not to dwell on feelings of "why me?" and "why now?".

And I must say, inspite of the difficulties we have going on now, we also have some very good things going on, so I try to focus on those.

[Lena]

I too am going through a tough time right now knowing that my father will die soon. It is hard not to feel angry and hurt, and even sorry for myself on occasion. I suppose that is all part of the process of dealing. I do pray, and that helps me keep my sanity.

[metamorphictrance]

Going through some of my notes I found this which I would like to share with you. It was written by a man who survived a concentration camp and lost his whole family. What does it mean for you?

Quote- Victor E. Frankl : Mans Search for Meaning.

'In a position of utter desolation, when man/woman can not express themself in positive action, when his/her only achievement may consist in enduring his/her sufferings in the right way - an honorable way - in such a position man/woman can, through loving contemplation of the image he/she carries of their beloved, achieve fulfillment. For the first time in my life I was able to understand the meaning of the words, "The angles are lost in perpetual contemplation of infinate glory."
Fundamentally, any man/woman can, under any circumstances, decide what shall become of him/herself - mentally and spiritually. The person may retain his/her dignity even in a concentration camp. Dostoevski said once, "There is only one thing that I dread: not to be worthy of my sufferings."
Emotion, which is suffering, ceases to be suffering as soon as we form a clear and precise picture of it.(Spinoza).
Our answer must consist, not of talk and meditation, But in right action and in right conduct. Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to it's problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual.
These tasks, and therefore the meaning of life, differ from individual to individual, and from moment to moment. "Life" does not mean something vague, but something very real and very concrete. They form mankind's destiny, which is different and unique for each individual.
Sometimes the situation in which a person finds themself may require the person to shape his own fate by action. At other times it is more advantageous for the person to make use of an opportunity for contemplation and to realize assets in this way. Sometimes a person may be required simply to bare his cross. Every situation is distinguished by its uniqueness and there is always only one right answer to the problem posed by the situation.
When a person finds that it is their destiny to suffer, they will have to acknowledge the fact that even in suffering he is unique and alone in the universe. No one can relieve that person of their suffering or suffer in their place. His/her unique opportunity lies in the way in which he bears his/her burden.'
Love and peace M*.