Judging: Encyclopedia II - Judging - Effect of judging on the one being judged

Judging - Effect of judging on the one being judged

While one isolated incidence of judging is easily forgotten, when it happens repetitively, as is very often the case, it can have a huge impact. People tend to respond to how they are repetitively judged, due to emotional distress, becoming more like what people wrongfully accuse them of.

A compelling emotional need for attention can lead a young girl to wearing clothes that will get the needed attention. Sometimes even before the girl has her first sexual encounter she becomes labeled as slut. If it is known that she hasn't had sex, she is called a tease and gets ridiculed for that. It appears to her that society is ridiculing her as if it is wrong not to have sex. The ridicule and accompanying lack of needed attention eventually causes her to break down and have sex in a desperate attempt to find love. The guy, as most guys do, dumps her immediately following that night, because he considers her to be a slut. She tries again, with the same result. Over and over and always the same result. Eventually the sociological rut we as a society have created for her turns her into what we call a slut.

A young black person in a bad neighborhood might often be harassed by the police, as if he is a criminal. This harassment is also judging. The effect of this harassment might cause this young person to over time develop a hatred for society. This person might continue to resist these feelings, and later on, have difficulty finding work. We all have some difficulty finding work, even if this person doesn't have more, the difficulty in resisting the earlier harassment gets more difficult. This person having previously experienced prejudism will now find it difficult not to blame the difficulty in finding work on prejudism, resulting in increased resentment. The result of this person being treated like a criminal is increased likelihood of this person becoming a criminal.

Some try to judge people positively, the idea being that if we treat people good and they are more likely to become good people.

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