Forgiveness: Encyclopedia II - Forgiveness - Forgiveness deep trauma and repeat deep trauma

Forgiveness - Forgiveness deep trauma and repeat deep trauma

When we carry deep psychological hurt and trauma with us after some crisis event we are negatively bonded with the situation in which the trauma occurred. For example: we may not be able to stop thinking about the circumstances of the event. We may feel hate for someone. We may feel deeply confused and unable to explain events. As a pragmatic ( non religious ) step repeated forgiveness by way of self suggestion releases the negative bond with the one or other people that caused the trauma and allows us to become positive again.

Every day quarrelling aside, sensible people do not invite avoidable, repeat, deep trauma caused by continued wilful neglect. Where deep trauma is likely to re-visit us many people suggest proactive forgiveness while remembering the sequence of events that will lead to traumatisation. This is otherwise known practically as forgiving but not forgetting. Often this practical approach leaves us less vulnerable in the face of repeated wilful neglect, while still able to keep our internal peace.

Many people resent having to police hyper vulnerable environments as such. Further internal conflict is caused because the 'policing' represents a degree of lack of forgiveness. This situation can only be avoided ( with more forgiving and ) forgetting events to the extent that an achievable level of comfort can be attained with one or other of the people that caused the trauma.

This leads to the common conclusion that only time heals. However the process of healing accelerates rapidly with positive proactive forgiveness.

Adapted from the Wikipedia article "Forgiveness deep trauma and repeat deep trauma", under the G.N U Free Docmentation License. Please also see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki