 | By CaroleHyder
Feng Shui In The Bedroom: Romancing the Bagua
If one of your goals this year is to call a partner into your life or to enhance a partnership that seems to lack the thrill it used to have, the best room to adjust in your home is your master bedroom. This is true whether your master bedroom is in the Partnership corner of your house or not. The master bedroom represents a primary relationship, no matter where it's located. Anytime there are relationship issues, particularly in personal relationships, it is important to keep the bedroom in order and in a balanced and harmonious state.
One way to bring harmony into a bedroom is to incorporate as many round and/or oval shapes as possible. This could be a round or oval picture above the bed, or a picture with round flower-like shapes in it. It could mean having some round night stands or some small round pillows on the bed. The feeling of harmony could also be accomplished with a round or oval rug. Upholstery fabric, wallpaper, bedspread patterns or curtain patterns could incorporate some soft circular shapes. If some of the furniture can be placed at an angle in the corners of the room, it will bring a more circular flow than having all the furniture straight up against the walls.
Using pairs of items emphasizes the idea of a couple, such as pairs of candles, two chairs, two decorative pillows, two matching potted plants. Seeing this "two-ness" reflected in the bedroom emphasizes the idea of intimacy and harmony with another person. It is also imperative that the room reflects both aspects of a relationship: male and female, yin and yang. If there's too much yin or female energy, the person who holds the yang energy in the relationship may feel uncomfortable. Pink lace curtains, flowered wallpaper motifs complemented by small wicker furniture may appeal to the female part of the relationship, but repulse the male aspect. An excess of yang energy results in the same outcome. A bedroom with oversized furniture, wild life prints on each of the walls and a stuffed moose-head positioned right above the gun cabinet would be out of balance. This male-female (yin-yang) balance is important even for same-sex relationships.
A bedroom must speak to romance, whether you're romancing another person or yourself. "Romance" means different things to different people. To some people romance means flowers, to others it's the use of candles. Some people think of rocking chairs, or sometimes a particular color conjures up romantic feelings. Whatever signifies romance to you must be included in your bedroom. If you're already involved with a partner, your idea of "romance" should coincide with your partner's idea of "romance." If you bring in flowers because they make you feel lavish and special, but your partner is allergic to flowers, then another avenue needs to be explored so that both of you experience the romance.
If you're trying to call in a partner, make sure that your current space has room for another person. I often hear objections that if another person were to come into a client's life, they would move together to a different place. Nevertheless, a very overt message is sent to a prospective partner if you have no room for them in your current space. This overcrowded condition doesn't just convey that there's no room physically, but that there's no room emotionally as well.
You can ask yourself if there would be any room in your closet for someone else's clothes. In order to make room, you may need to simplify your closet dramatically. Even if in the end there is not enough closet space for someone else, your intention to clear some old things out and make room for another person is powerful. When a new partner moves into another partner's home, a critical blending needs to happen, or the new partner will forever feel like a visitor.
Be mindful of where you place your clothes hamper and your wastebasket in your master bedroom. You don't want to be "hampered" in any way or feel like your relationships are being "recycled" more than you like. Remove any dried flowers in the master bedroom since they are "dead" and cannot help to promote blossoming and vitality in relationships. You do not want to have your bedroom overrun with stuffed animals that represent your childhood preferences, for you do not want to be a child in your bedroom. Likewise, having a picture of yourself as a baby or as a little kid in your bedroom also conjures up memories of you as a child. Having pictures of just about anyone in your bedroom can set up some hesitations when inviting in a partner. Hanging pictures of your own children or of your parents can certainly make you feel self-conscious.
Your bedroom is meant to be just that - a room for your bed. It's not a workout space, a place of business or an entertainment hub. Your bedroom is for two things: sleep and intimacy. Anything that speaks to other activities needs to find a new "home" or at least be screened off at night so its impact isn't direct. This is personal space. No one else comes into your room except by your invitation. If your bedroom is just off the living room, you need to keep the door closed to prevent peering eyes from violating your private space. Now is the time you can begin to call in the passion you want. Begin to realize your heart's desires by working some Feng Shui into your bedroom!
Carole J. Hyder has accomplished success as a Feng Shui consultant, speaker, teacher, author and trainer.
She has been a Feng Shui consultant since 1992, having studied with Professor Thomas Lin Yun and Roger Green, both master teachers in their respective philosophies of Feng Shui.
Carole J. Hyder has accomplished international success as a Feng Shui consultant, speaker, teacher, author and trainer. She has been a Feng Shui consultant since 1992, having studied with Professor Thomas Lin Yun, a master Feng Shui teacher of the Black Sect tradition, as well as Roger Green, a master in the traditional Compass school perspective. She is the author of "Wind and Water: Your Personal Feng Shui Journey." Please visit her website at www.carolehyder.com.
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