Bondage BDSM: Encyclopedia II - Bondage BDSM - Bondage and relationships

Bondage BDSM - Bondage and relationships

The mechanics of bondage are trivial compared to the relationship issues.

• Start with a committed relationship with a lot of trust and plenty of sexual activity together.
• Talk things through first.
• Start slow and easy.
• Take turns being the one being tied up.
• Take the simple safety precautions listed above.

Some members of the BDSM subculture take another route and seek out partners who share their interest in bondage. Many act out their bondage fantasies within the confines of private "play" parties where overt genital contact is not allowed between participants.

Some bondage practitioners go through a process often called "negotiation" with potential partners, be they long time partners or more casual relationships. Negotiation is essentially a conversation conducted well before any sexual activity has begun in which each party frankly outlines what they are interested in and what their boundaries are, and out of that shared information comes to a mutual agreement about potential bondage play in upcoming sexual activity. Although some people may find this embarrassing at first, this frank and forthright exchange allows both parties to feel confident about bondage activity and to understand their partner's needs. Due to the vast range of activities and intensities that are possible in bondage play and fetish sex, negotiation is an excellent technique to make sure both parties have realistic expectations and that the anticipated acts will be enjoyable to all involved.

Adapted from the Wikipedia article "Bondage and relationships", under the G.N U Free Docmentation License. Please also see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki